What Does It Mean To Be a Life-Giving Leader?

I’m not sure if you’ve heard the rumblings, but people in almost every context are demanding a new kind of leader. I see it in our homes, in our schools, in government, in non-profit work and in the marketplace.

In 2001, I began speaking on this “new kind of leader.” I saw it even then, as we marched into the 21st century and our society seemed to be shifting.

How Have We Changed?

Over the last 60 years, we’ve seen an evolution of “leadership styles” that have been common and acceptable. In each era, the typical kind of leader was different, based on the cultural realities of the time. In other words, our leadership style not only reflects the personality we have, as leaders, but the demands of culture around us. Let me offer a quick example.

1950s – The Military Commander 

Sixty-plus years ago, a command and control style was popular in most venues. People expected leaders to be strong and authoritative. It was a top-down style, regardless of the context. Even our U.S. presidents then came out of the military, including Dwight Eisenhower and John Kennedy. They expected loyalty from people.

1960s and 70s – The CEO

Due to a televised war in Vietnam and a Watergate scandal at home, people stopped blindly trusting leaders. We moved to a visionary style I call a CEO style. Even if they didn’t like a leader, people may like the leader’s vision. They expected productivity.

1980s – The Entrepreneur

In this period, innovation was king. New technology was introduced to the market and what people valued was a “cutting edge” leader. People wanted to be the first to market, even if things got messy. The leader and team both expected innovation.

1990s – The Coach

This style emerged when Gen X hit the workforce. They didn’t want a leader who sat in an ivory tower and barked orders. They requested a coaching style that was more relational, practical and genuine. The leader expected teamwork and camaraderie.

2000s – The Connector

By the turn of the century, we got connected. The Internet was already a reality, but social media became the game changer. We began to see it brought both positive and negative outcomes. Leaders needed to be connectors who redeemed the possibilities.


We are experiencing a new day that requires a new kind of leader. Both kids and adults want it. Both volunteers and paid staff want it. Both old and young want it. It’s not just servant-leadership, although that term helps describe it. Service is certainly the beginning, but it goes beyond service:

  • We live in a day that is less formal—more authentic.
  • We live in a day where people long for the rare commodity of relationships.
  • We live in a day where good leadership is about empowerment, not power.
  • In our day, folks want to improve the world—not just generate revenue.

This new kind of leader is life-giving. Their very style breathes life on others by the way they perceive the reality in front of them; by the way they encourage and inspire others; by the way they furnish energy to conversations and projects; by how they spot solutions (not just problems), and how they motivate others through gratitude—not guilt.

An Invitation

At Growing Leaders, we decided to host an educator’s roundtable, to talk about this new kind of leader. It will take place on June 21-22, 2018 in Atlanta. In this forum, we will workshop the best ways to become life-giving leaders and create life-giving cultures in our schools. Our space is limited to the first 150 who register.

We’ve put together a line-up of “TED Talk” type of presenters who’ll interact with attendees, answer questions and help us to create a game plan as we return home:

  • Author Daniel Pink
  • Author Will Parker
  • Author Dee Ann Turner
  • Author Tim Elmore (yours truly)
  • A Panel of Educators from various schools in our country.

If you are a leader in a secondary school (middle or high school administrator, curriculum leader, or student council advisor), I am cordially inviting you to join us.


Your School Is Invited to Join Dan Pink at
The 2018 RoundTable for Principals

Dr. Tim Elmore and our team invite your school to attend the 2018 RoundTable for Principals, an event for educational leaders who work in middle and high schools.

When you attend the 2018 RoundTable for Principals, you’ll get the key to:

  • Develop an action plan for creating a school culture.
  • Learn how to answer a never-ending stream of “when” questions to time decisions well.
  • Build healthy relationships on campus that set everyone up for success.
  • Leverage the unique strengths of each faculty and staff member to create a life-giving school culture.
  • Gain buy in from faculty, staff and students.

This unique RoundTable is limited to 150 secondary school leaders and is offered on a first come, first serve basis.

Learn More Here

What Does It Mean To Be a Life-Giving Leader?