How to Solve the Problem of Student Online Relationships
When I first studied the data on Generation Z and their habits, I was surprised to see that teen sex has decreased over the last ten years. In fact, fewer teens are engaging in sexual activity than teens in my generation back in the 1970s. When I paused to consider why this is—I slowly understood what was happening. We Never Met in
This Breaking News Can Mean Only One Thing: The New Era of Video Games is Here
Today’s blog is from Andrew McPeak. Andrew is a next gen researcher, speaker, and author for Growing Leaders. Imagine with me an America that is slightly different than the one we know today. In every neighborhood of major cities across America, you find small internet cafes that offer top of the line gaming PCs which interested gamers can rent for about a dollar an
The Unintended Consequences of Academic Pressure
I don’t have to tell you that the pressure to “make the grade” is greater in our society today than it’s ever been. For some strange reason, American adults have chosen to give one, single evaluation to our students of their worth…and it’s an academic report card. In our 2017 Focus Groups, we asked students what their greatest source of stress
Twelve Ideas for Students to Try During Summer Break
Summer is upon us. The time when school is out for a few months (although it seems shorter every year) and kids of all ages—even teens—have to figure out what to do with their free time. Some, of course, have it all mapped out in the spring. They plan to play travel ball or do gymnastics or attend summer camp. Most,
Quality Time or Quantity Time with Your Kids?
Earlier this month, the ABC network aired a special called “ScreenTime” hosted by Diane Sawyer. For six months, Sawyer and her team toured the U.S. talking to doctors, families, teachers and tech insiders in pursuit of answers to questions about how our smart phones are affecting us. What they discovered may not surprise you: Today, the average adult spends 49
When Is it Right For a Teacher to Lecture?
I have two distinct memories in my childhood of being “lectured” by an adult. The first was my girlfriend’s mother, after I disobeyed her curfew as a teen. I knew better, but I tested the boundaries by returning her daughter after our date 10 minutes after the curfew. I had a great time on the date, but the lecture afterward
What We Can Learn About Leading Students from Instagram
Angela is in the sixth grade. Her parents have chosen to not purchase a smart phone for her yet, because they see the anxiety social media platforms cause Angela’s peers. When my teammate Andrew McPeak asked her if she wishes she had a phone, her response was insightful. She said, “No. I wish my friends didn’t have phones.” The fact is,
Five Ingredients to Build a Culture of Ownership on Your Campus
When Akbar Cook took over Westside High School in Newark, NJ, it was a mess. Students were divided into cliques that never interacted; teachers did their work in silos; and an attitude of distrust prevailed on the campus. Further, it was a low-income area, with 85 percent of the student body chronically missing school. He knew his work was cut
Three Statistics that Will Change the Way You Think about Generation Z
Today’s blog is from Andrew McPeak. Andrew is a next gen researcher, speaker, and author for Growing Leaders. How well do you think you know Generation Z? Years ago I was speaking to a group of adults who were leading students in schools across the country. While most of them were leading Millennials at the time, I reminded them that a new generation was coming.
How Generation Z is Changing the World of Dating
Have you noticed? High school and college students from Generation Z are approaching "dating"…uh…differently. I just spoke to Sophia, a sophomore in high school. The last time she and I talked she was dating a guy named Conner. In our recent conversation I asked if they were still dating and Sophia replied, “I don’t think so.” Wait. What? Why wouldn’t you know
Three Leadership Secrets from Bohemian Rhapsody
I turn 60 years old this year. I share this fact because it will explain my next few sentences. As a teen, I listened to the rock band, Queen. They were eccentric, even edgy, and their tunes got stuck in my head. (It’s precisely what musicians want.) A few months ago, I saw the movie, “Bohemian Rhapsody” (twice) and later,
Five Technology Rules Every Parent Must Follow
Sonia Bokhari was an 8th grader when she joined the world of social media for the first time. She was excited, to say the least, to jump on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and other platforms her friends were already on. What she discovered made her feel betrayed. Upon setting up her profile, she quickly found out her mom and sister had been posting
What Short-Term Thinking Does to Our Kids
Have you read the latest updates on the largest college admissions bribery scandal in our history? The original story was—at least 50 parents paid bribes to get their children admitted into prestigious universities, like Stanford, Yale, UCLA, Wake Forest, USC and others. It was an atrocious attempt by parents to control outcomes and is an ugly sign of the times—that
Three Huge Mistakes We Make Leading Kids…and How to Correct Them
While I applaud the engagement of this generation of parents and teachers, it’s important to recognize these three mistakes we make leading kids.
Six Defining Characteristics of Generation Z
I wish you could meet Lizzy. Or Dane. Or, for that matter, Seth and Carly. These students have all been born since September 11, 2001—a marker in our U.S. history that will always divide those born in the 20th century from those born afterward. I was with these students recently and immediately noticed a different perspective in them as teens
How to Prevent a Negative Social Media Impact
Everyone reading this already knows about the negative impact social media has had on our students and our world. While social media apps are neutral in themselves, people have misused and abused those sites, fostering anxiety, depression, cyber-bullying and even suicide among preteens and teens. The good news is, some educators have begun to leverage smart technology for good. They are
Parents Are Losing Their Kids to Video Games
Today’s blog is from Andrew McPeak. Andrew is a next gen researcher, speaker, and author for Growing Leaders. I recently read a commentary from a parent in the Chicago Tribune that was equally troubling and hilarious. This dad detailed the strange habits of his “Fortnite-obsessed” kids: waking up early to play the game, using strange words like “epic” and “legendary,” and moving around the
Seven Emotions That Follow a Sense of Entitlement
Follow @TimElmore A few short years ago, corporate executives were asked what single word best describes the recent college graduates entering their workplace. The word they selected? Entitled. Interestingly, when recent graduates were asked to guess what descriptive word these executives had chosen that begins with the letter “e,” they guessed: exciting, enterprising, entrepreneurial and energetic. None of them guessed how
The Real Purpose of Social Media
One of the biggest disconnects I see between adults and adolescents today is social media.
Four Dangerous Parenting Styles Today
Just walk into any pre-school center and you’ll see that parents continue to evolve, even today in 2019. The variety of today’s parents is enormous. One teacher told me moms or dads will remain at the school until after the official start time, to make sure their child is safe and happy. Another administrator told me that parents are now
Why Helicopter Parents Produce Boomerang Kids
I spent the last few days studying thirty years of student trends and patterns. While both K-12 and Higher Education have gone through transitions—the greatest shift in three decades of childhood is the parents. Parents are doing their job differently than they did forty years ago. We’ve all heard the term, “Helicopter Parent.” It’s a title we’ve affectionately bestowed upon moms and
Morality and Social Media: Have You Considered the Impact?
Consider this reality. What the computer was for the Millennial Generation, social media is for Generation Z. The youngest cohort being measured today are those growing up since the turn of the 21st century; many call them Generation Z, following Gen. Y. Some call them the “touch screen generation” because they don’t manipulate the screen with a keyboard as much
One Solution to Spark Change in Your Students
Life changes fast. Sometimes we can see it change before our very eyes, but at other times, we must step back and observe. Consider this fact. Less than a hundred years ago, in my grandparents' day, many Americans saw some realities in life differently. Less Than a Century Ago We… Felt cigarette smoking could provide relief from asthma. Yep. Advertisers sold packs
Five Signs of Entitlement in Our Kids
A New York based firm met with a group of recent college graduates to talk about their careers. During the conversation, the potential employer asked the grads this question: What’s the one word HR execs use more than any other to describe the mindset of your generation? It begins with an “E.” Do you know what that word is? The young
The Top Reasons Today’s Teens Lack Sleep & What to Do
When my teammate, Andrew McPeak, hosted several focus groups with middle school and high school students last year—we suspected we’d hear about certain habits in their lives, such as: Several hours of screen time on their portable device Feeling overwhelmed by school pressures and college entrance exams Their relationships with their parents at home What we didn’t expect to hear was
Why Generation Z is Passing on College
I just spent two evenings with two audiences of high school and college students. As I asked them questions about their future, I heard them say things like: I am not so sure I will finish college. I plan to take a gap year and if it goes well, I may just launch my career. I watch YouTube videos, so
What Can Parents Do about Fortnite?
Today's blog is from Andrew McPeak. Andrew is a next gen researcher, speaker, and author for Growing Leaders. A few weeks ago I was having dinner with some friends and their kids did something hilarious. These two young boys moved some furniture around in the dining room and started doing what could be only described as a series of strange dances. Some were dances
Athletes & Mental Health: Two Changes We Need to Make
You may remember Tyler Hilinski, the Washington State University quarterback who took his own life last January. His football team took a knee as they launched a new season this year—visually acknowledging their fallen teammate, and further shining a spotlight on a significant and growing issue for student athletes: The mental health crisis. Certainly, athlete suicides are not new, but the frequency
Anxiety: One Solution to Get Out of this Mess
Everywhere I go, I meet adults (most of them parents) who are afraid for our kids today. We are afraid of what can happen on social media, school shootings, drug abuse, cyber-bullying, terrorism, phone addictions, you name it. Since I see this in every state, I decided to dig and discover why we have become so fearful. How and when did
Five Dangerous Apps Parents Don’t Know Teens Use
One decade ago, high school senior, Jessica Logan sent a nude photo of herself to her boyfriend. When they later broke up, he forwarded the photo to everyone else at her school. This launched her tragic attempt to hide from those who teased her about being a slut. Jessica ended up losing the battle for her reputation. After attending a
How Great Leaders Create Engaged Cultures
After meeting with a national champion athletic coach, a president of a growing university and an amazing principal of a 3,600-student high school—I’ve drawn at least one conclusion about quality leadership: Great leaders create the campus culture. This means, when you arrive, you are the “Chief Culture Officer.” You improve the culture, through your own style and personality, and lift everyone to
Four Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life
Thanksgiving is the time of year that most of us busy Americans get to push the Pause button on our lives and relax with friends or family. It’s supposed to be the time we reflect on how fortunate we are for the people around us, the food inside of us, and the “stuff” in front of us, every day. We
The Unexpected Outcome of the Pittsburgh Synagogue Shooting
Every now and then, you hear a story that takes your breath away. A true story that defies human logic, but displays human nature at its very best. Such a story took place a few weeks ago in Pennsylvania. By now, you’ve heard various accounts of the tragic shooting that took place at the Tree of Life Synagogue, in Pittsburgh, PA.
When Positive Words Negatively Affect Students
I’ve watched the influence of the words of leaders, teachers and parents for years now. Far too often, when we speak we’re only thinking about how we feel at the moment or what we’re thinking in that moment—not how those words will affect our kids. It isn’t until later that we recognize what those words have done to the mindset
Three Top “F” Words Teens Use Today
If you work with students, you already know they have their own language. I suppose my generation did too, when I was a teenager, but language expansion must be on steroids today. Pause and think for a moment about the common phrases a high school or college student may use today: - Netflix and Chill - I Literally Can’t Even - Turn Down
When Achievement Becomes an Unhealthy Pursuit
I’ve committed my life to building student leaders—young people who are almost always ambitious and high achieving. The last two generations have grown up as students who are predisposed to believe they can and will change the world. But I’ve seen some kids cross a line when it comes to achievement. I just spoke to a high school senior who told me:
How to Decrease Entitlement: Combine Rights and Responsibilities
About a month ago, we posted an article on this blog page about how empowered today’s students are—possessing the ability to post content without the need to go through any authorities; to learn information without the need of an accompanying teacher or parent. You get the idea. One insightful reply to the article came from Cheryl Buford. She wrote: I appreciate the
Four Parenting Strategies for Leading Generation Z
I recently listened to a school administrator speak to parents, before I walked on stage to do a presentation to those same parents on the most common mistakes we make as we lead our kids today. That administrator attempted to encourage parents by saying: No student will be permitted to go to the restroom without an adult. All students must be with a
Five Ways to Manage Disrespect from Students Today
During the 2017-2018 school year, more educators asked me for ideas about managing disrespectful students than any year in my memory. One teacher told me a student in her class was slouching and drifting off to sleep. She walked over to him and requested he sit up straight and pay attention. This 17-year-old high schooler replied, “Make me.” (This sounds
Three Trends on the Rise as Generation Z Grows Up
Today, tech innovations are being introduced faster than I can keep up. Did you know that a flying car may be unveiled at the 2020 Olympic Games in Tokyo? Yes, I just said that. A rider in this flying car plans to light the torch at the beginning of the games. Toyota is funding a company that hopes to introduce
Let’s Make Common Sense Common Again
Sometimes, I don’t know whether to laugh or to cry when I read some news stories today. Our world is more educated, more sophisticated, more modernized and more industrialized than ever before—but in our race to make progress, we often leave one important quality behind: common sense. Webster defines common sense as: “the ability to think and behave in a reasonable way
The Important Division Between Fault and Responsibility
My mom and dad told me over the years that I was a funny little kid, when I was very young. Whenever anything went wrong in our home—a spilled drink at the kitchen table, a lost item from a room, a torn sock, you name it—I apologized for it. Even if it clearly wasn’t my fault, I felt I needed
How to Overcome Job Shaming
I’m not sure if you caught it, but actor Geoffrey Owens recently appeared on ABC’s “Good Morning America” after an incident that took place in New York. You might remember Owens as the actor known for his comedic role as Elvin Tibideaux on The Cosby Show, between 1985 and 1992. But recently, Owens was “job shamed.” Photos of Geoffrey, working in a Trader Joe's, were published by The
A Good Change Between Millennials and Generation Z
I probably don’t need to tell you—the kids who make up Generation Z are not merely a continuation of the Millennial Generation. The times are different; culture has shifted and more realities are uncertain than ever before. Let me illustrate some of the shifts that have happened from one generation to the next: Millennials Generation Z I am naïve and nurtured I am savvy and
The One Soft Skill That Can Make or Break a Person
A new survey was taken among both educators and parents—which revealed that each has different perspectives when it comes to our kids. We gain a fresh perspective when we see life from the classroom as well as the family room. Both teachers and parents, however, agree on one thing for sure: that schools should assess students on both “academic knowledge”
Four Ordinary Traits of Extraordinary Leaders
During my doctoral studies in leadership development, one question framed more conversations than almost any other: do great leaders form in any age and under any circumstance—or do contrary circumstances actually “summon” leaders to step forward? For example, would we have ever heard of attorney Abraham Lincoln had we never had a civil war to fight or a union to
My Commitment: To Make Myself Useful to Generation Z
I recently spoke to a university student who candidly told me what he was up to. As he shared his political views, his plans for a career, his spiritual beliefs and his fluid gender identification—I immediately smiled, as I knew it was a departure from his parents’ worldview. When I asked, “Have you talked to your parents about all this?” he
10 Slang Terms Teens Use That Adults Should Know
Last fall, ESPN ran a very funny piece on how NCAA football coaches did not understand the slang terms of their players. From Nick Saban to Tom Allen, coaches admitted that the terminology their youth athletes used to communicate was a little like a foreign language to them. Sometimes they said it felt like they needed a translator to explain
Five Paradoxes on Teens From the Eighth Grade
I just saw the movie, “Eighth Grade,” and for the entire 94 minutes, felt like I got to climb into the brain of a young teen coming of age. It’s the story of Kayla Day during her last week of eighth grade—detailing her feelings about her body, her virtual friends, her popularity, her wishful love life and her anxiety about them
The Problem With Many Smartphone Solutions
Smartphones have been around long enough for people to see both the benefits and consequences of such devices on young people. As our speaker team makes their way across the country this month to 45 school events, we are meeting educators, coaches and parents who mourn the addictive nature of portable devices. We now know that smartphones are as addictive