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Research Unveils a New Challenge Kids Must Overcome

Years ago, we began reading widely accepted research that girls were experiencing puberty at an earlier age than in the past. Now—we’re discovering the boys are facing their own challenges. Males in the U.S. are starting puberty six months to two years earlier than we did when I was a kid. Back in my day, puberty began at around 12 years old. Today, it’s now 10, according to the 2012 American Academy of Pediatrics.

You say—so what?

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Significant challenges accompany this reality. First, this research unveils that boys who begin puberty at about 10 years old, instead of 12 or 13, desire sexual activity sooner than their emotions know how to handle it. Their body screams at them to do something they are not ready to be responsible for emotionally, intellectually, socially or spiritually. Like a ten year old who wants to drive a car—they yearn for something they are just not ready to handle. For instance, they’re big enough to cause physical damage to people or property but are emotionally behind in curbing that appetite to do so.

The bottom line? Their emotional maturity is not keeping pace with their physical maturity. In other words, they’re advanced in some categories of their maturation, but delayed in others. This causes parents, teachers, coaches and youth workers to struggle in how to teach and equip them. In some ways—they’re so ready for what’s ahead. In others, they are so behind. At times, we must treat them like adults; at other times, like little children.

So what can we do?

Let me suggest three simple ideas:

First, talk about this with your own kids and with your students. Yes, it will bring a laugh or a giggle, but have a conversation about how we mature at different paces and often our body wants something our emotions will fail to handle well.

Second, substitution is often a good solution. Get them consumed with things that will occupy their minds—problem solving, fund raising for a great cause, serving the marginalized—something that captures their imagination. This is what my parents helped me do growing up, and it saved me.

Third, as much as possible, remove media input that exposes them to the drive for sexual activity or conquest. It’s every where in our culture, but help them by reducing it as much as possible.

In light of this topic, what would you add to my list?

7 Comments

  1. Dina Sleiman on October 29, 2012 at 9:23 am

    For the record, both my teenage daughter and son didn’t fully hit puberty until age 15, and we don’t drink milk at our house. My advice is avoid all those extra hormones in the food.

    • Tim Elmore on October 29, 2012 at 3:04 pm

      Fascinating. I don’t doubt that chemicals in our environment have contributed to this situation.

  2. Kyle VanArsdol on November 3, 2012 at 11:38 am

    Tim, this is more of a question than a comment and it probably goes with your first suggestion of having a conversation but how do you think abstinence education (like W.A.I.T. training) fits in with this situation?

  3. Anonymous on November 7, 2012 at 4:19 pm

    Being an extremist and cut milk out, that children need for srong bones is not the solution either.

    • Tim Elmore on November 25, 2012 at 9:54 pm

      Being an extremist may not be the answer but there are chemicals in our food, water and plastics that should not be ignored.

  4. Brigit on November 21, 2012 at 1:36 am

    I’m a new mom – too often frightened by the future waiting for my little girl. Finding courage and hope through your practical tips. Thanks!

    • Tim Elmore on November 25, 2012 at 9:53 pm

      Glad you found it helpful!

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Research Unveils a New Challenge Kids Must Overcome