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A Profound Reminder From Miley Cyrus

You probably heard about entertainer Miley Cyrus’ latest escapade in Las Vegas. Just prior to the holidays, she got up on stage with Brittney Spears’ dancers and began passionately kissing one of them, then grinding against another. The act had network news commentators asking what would drive her to do this, noting what a change it was from the Miley Cyrus we knew less than ten years ago when she played Hannah Montana on the Disney channel. Everyone but the kids seemed to be scratching their heads.

Miley Cyrus Wonder World concert at Auburn Hills

So, someone asked Miley herself—why did you do it?

“I am only playing a character,” she replied. “It’s all an act. It’s all for fun.”

Whatever the reason, the deed has been done. And while grown ups debate the issue, excusing it or explaining it, young girls who follow her aren’t asking these questions. They just watch and want to emulate.

Miley is garnering followers among pre-teens like crazy, with millions of them visiting her website, wearing clothes like hers, and mimicking her phrases. It’s exactly what her image agents want. Provocative behavior gets attention.

The fact is, whether entertainers admit it or not, they are models for those who watch them. Whether good or bad, they set the tone for culture (especially the young). Unlike philosophers and poets of ancient times like Socrates or Augustine, who were prepared to help followers forge an intelligent worldview, people like Miley Cyrus are our modern day poets, whether we’re ready or not.

And scads of kids are watching her every move.

Educated adults today continue to downplay the power of example, but I disagree. Example has always been the most convincing influencer and motivator. Consider everyday life: regardless of the lectures mom or dad may give on a topic, kids watch what they do. James Baldwin said, “Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.”

If seeing an example truly held no sway in the minds of people, television commercials and other forms of advertising would’ve been eliminated a long time ago. But that isn’t the case. Decades ago, Coca Cola removed a billboard along a major freeway for one month, and it took the company several months to recover the loss in sales. One simple billboard.

The fact is, people remember twice as much of what they see as what they hear. Research done at Indiana University reveals that despite what anyone says, we tend to copy the input we’ve stored in our minds. Garbage in, garbage out. Kids are more likely to act violently after playing violent video games, and they are more apt to be sexually active after watching explicit sexual scenes on television or in movies. When it comes to what influences behavior, seeing is believing.

Famed endocrinologist Dr. Hans Selye revealed that each of us has a small membrane behind our brains called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). The primary function of the RAS is to nudge us in the direction of the dominant thought of the moment. Albert Schweitzer said it best: “Example isn’t the main thing…it’s the only thing.”

Consequently, example actually permits people to do good or bad; right or wrong; something destructive or something redemptive. For example, forty-five years ago, divorce was far less common than it is today. But as we all began to hear about couples getting a divorce, the model was present. While most of us still dislike the idea, half of us have experienced it. It has become a norm. Why? The example was set, and the uncommon became common.

I got a reminder of this recently watching my son talk with his friends. His demeanor and his words were almost carbon copies of mine. It was sobering to me. Some of what I saw was good; some not so much. I felt I was looking into a mirror.

This article is not meant to be a guilt-inducer. I’m simply saying that people like Miley Cyrus either know exactly what they’re doing—and should feel embarrassed by the model they’re setting for kids—or don’t realize the power and permission their example gives to young people who watch.

I understand why Miley Cyrus might want to part with the Disney image she was strapped with for over a decade ago, but I’ve got to think there’s a better way to re-invent oneself. It doesn’t require a wrecking ball swing to the other extreme, where young girls now want to emulate the grinding and the passionate kissing their idol has shown them.

Thanks, Miley, for the reminder. Now… please set a good example for us.

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  1. Kristen @ Joyfully Thriving on January 21, 2014 at 7:08 am

    Thank you, Tim! This is one of the best articles I’ve yet to read on the Miley Cyrus debacle. Examples are incredibly powerful, and I strive to remember that every day as I teach – and live!

    • Tim Elmore on January 22, 2014 at 3:26 pm

      Thank you, Kristen. It is a daily goal for me as well. [Another thank you for leading the next generation :)]

  2. Snooze on January 21, 2014 at 9:10 am

    Surround your kids with positive role models, including yourself. There will always be negative influence. Always has been, always will be. Tens have always been into the “shock” factor since the beginning of time. So there are good entertainer role models. Are you saying that ones that shock parents are the ones kids will gravitate too and ignore the good ones? No one is emulating Taylor Swift? Come on. One does not negate the other. If it wasn’t Miley, it would be something else. Miley just gets the attention right now. Next year, it will be something else.

  3. Timb on January 21, 2014 at 9:12 am

    Snooze is right. They said the same thing about Elvis.

  4. Andrea on January 22, 2014 at 2:39 pm

    I’m surprised there isn’t a more “spiritual” explaination offered in this article after all we (including Miley) war against prinicipalities and powers and rulers of this dark world (Eph. 6), has anyone ever connected the dots and seen that Hollywood and the record industry is mainly run by people following another god? Do we as believers remember what Lucifer was in charge of before the fall? He was the most beautiful singer of them all! There is a large pull to idolatry in a society that exaults talent and puts people into a position that fosters pride, many celebraties have outright said that they sold their souls to the devil for fame and fortune. Read what Miley’s dad said in a GQ magazine interview a couple years prior and read between the lines to what he is really saying. Agents, executives, producers, etc. (Walt Disney was said to have been a member of a well known secret society) are now her “handlers” and keeps even her close family at bay.

  5. Kathryn on February 12, 2014 at 11:41 am

    In some ways (only some) I feel bad for Miley Cyrus because I think no matter how much one tries to prepare a child star for the ensuing fame, nothing can really prepare them for what is more often than not, a very oppressive environment in which to grow up. Many of the things Miley has done recently are similar to what girls her age experiment with in college, the difference being, she’s on the world stage with every move being scrutinized. With all that fame comes a lot of responsibility to be sure. However, I would be willing to wager when she was just a kid, she had no idea that with her fame, she would lose all privacy and freedom to make mistakes like a regular kid. Whether she knows it or not, her behavior influences girls and I would imagine if she does know it, she probably regrets taking on that massive responsibility. It’s most likely exhausting. That being said, she is an adult now and regardless of how disenchanted she may be or how badly she wants to just be able to do whatever she pleases without being lectured about the influence she has on others, she is still responsible for her actions and how they influence girls. Like it or not, that’s what she has signed up for and what she continues to pursue every time she agrees to do an interview or music video. If she doesn’t want to portray a positive image for girls, then it’s our responsibility to help our young girls differentiate between women they should emulate and girls like Miley.

    • Tim Elmore on February 13, 2014 at 5:42 pm

      Thank you for commenting, Kathryn. You bring up some great points on how we can empathize with Miley, but also know that she is responsible for her actions.

      But with all that, like you said, our responsibility is to help today’s students find the healthiest role models.

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A Profound Reminder From Miley Cyrus