My friend, Kyle Stark, recently sent this article to me and I felt it was worth repeating. It’s a simple plan for personal growth, on the job, with your family, or even with your students. It’s called the “GROW” model, and it comes from James Manktelow and Amy Carlson. I hope you find it as helpful as I did.
“A good way of thinking about the GROW Model is to compare it to how you’d plan a trip or a journey. First, you decide where you are going (the goal), and establish where you currently are (your current reality). You then explore various routes (the options) to your destination. In the final step, establishing the will, you ensure that you’re committed to making the journey, and are prepared for the obstacles that you could meet on the way. It’s a bit like a GPS for your personal growth.
1. Establish the GOAL.
First, you and your team member need to look at the behavior that you want to change, and then structure this change as a goal that she wants to achieve. Make sure that this is a SMART goal: one that is Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Time-bound. When doing this, it’s useful to ask questions like:
- How will you know that your team member has achieved this goal?
- How will you know that the problem or issue is solved?
- Does this goal fit with her overall career objectives?
- And does it fit with the team’s objectives?
2. Examine the Current REALITY.
Next, ask your team member to describe his current reality. This is an important step: Too often, people try to solve a problem or reach a goal without fully considering their starting point, and often they’re missing some information that they need in order to reach their goal effectively. As your team member tells you about his current reality, the solution may start to emerge. Useful coaching questions in this step include the following:
- What is happening now (what, who, when, and how often)?
- What is the effect or result of this?
- Have you already taken any steps towards your goal?
- Does this goal conflict with any other goals or objectives?
3. Explore the OPTIONS (or Obstacles)
Once you and your team member have explored the current reality, it’s time to determine what is possible—meaning all of the possible options for reaching her objective. Help your team member brainstorm as many good options as possible. Then, discuss these and help her decide on the best ones. By all means, offer your own suggestions in this step. But let your team member offer suggestions first, and let her do most of the talking. It’s important to guide her in the right direction, without actually making decisions for her. Typical questions that you can use to explore options are as follows:
- What else could you do?
- What if this or that constraint were removed? Would that change things?
- What are the advantages and disadvantages of each option?
- What factors or considerations will you use to weigh the options?
- What do you need to stop doing in order to achieve this goal?
- What obstacles stand in your way?
4. Establish the WILL (or Way Forward)
By examining the current reality and exploring the options, your team member will now have a good idea of how he can achieve his goal. That’s great—but in itself, this may not be enough. The final step is to get your team member to commit to specific actions in order to move forward towards his goal. In doing this, you will help him establish his will and boost his motivation. Useful questions to ask here include:
- So, what will you do now, and when? What else will you do?
- What could stop you moving forward? How will you overcome this?
- How can you keep yourself motivated?
- When do you need to review progress? Daily, weekly, monthly?
- Finally, decide on a date when you’ll both review his progress. This will provide some accountability, and allow him to change his approach if the original plan isn’t working.”
This article is an excerpt take from a paper by James Manktelow & Amy Carlson. You can find the original article here.
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