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Abandonment or Abundance [repost]

In my recent book, Generation iY—Our Last Chance to Save Their Future, I suggest a handful of reasons why kids today (Generation iY) are getting “stuck” and are disabled from growing up. They’re unprepared for life after school is done. Adulthood sneaks up and ambushes them.

I believe nearly every struggle a kid has today can be summarized with one of two words. They have had too much or too little adult involvement in their life.

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  1. Lynn on April 6, 2011 at 3:53 pm

    As our seven children were growing up, we let them know that God through us would provide for their needs as they were children. If a pair of shoes or jeans were needed, we would provide for a decent pair. If they wanted the name brand or the “in” style that was their choice to spend more with their money. They shopped very well at thrift stores to get what they wanted. Some had jobs that allowed them to get more of their wants.

    We never purchased or helped to purchase a vehicle or bought their insurance. In fact, Driver’s Education was their choice, two decided not to pay for it and waited until turning eighteen to receive their license. When they turned eighteen, they were required to pay rent if they were not enrolled full time in school. This expectation was told to them when they were quite young. Having an uncle that did not grow up until he was 30, helped us to illustrate the need for this requirement. This eventually led one child to join the Army.

    It is interesting that about half of our children are wise financially, but we did give them all the training. I include ‘wise use of resources’ as I pray daily for them.

    • Tim Elmore on April 29, 2011 at 1:29 pm

      Lynn, I think you’ve given a great example of how parents can help teach their children the difference between “needs” and “wants.” It’s amazing how clear that distinction becomes when they have to spend their own money! Thanks so much for taking the time to read and respond.

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Abandonment or Abundance [repost]