Five Destructive Parenting Habits We Must Replace
Now that my kids are grown adults, I feel more comfortable teaching both parents and faculty the art of leading young people into healthy maturity. Like many parents, my experience raising my first child enabled me to relax a bit on my second child. We tend to obsess at the tiniest quirk in our first baby, and by child number
One Habit Great Leaders Use to Grow Mentally
Since 1987, I have tried to keep a journal of my special experiences, my reflections on things that happen to me, and the trips I take. It started out as a sort of diary, but it was more about the stuff I did and what I thought about it, instead of my feelings. Recently, I was leafing through some old journals,
How to Prevent a Negative Social Media Impact
Everyone reading this already knows about the negative impact social media has had on our students and our world. While social media apps are neutral in themselves, people have misused and abused those sites, fostering anxiety, depression, cyber-bullying and even suicide among preteens and teens. The good news is, some educators have begun to leverage smart technology for good. They are
Parents Are Losing Their Kids to Video Games
Today’s blog is from Andrew McPeak. Andrew is a next gen researcher, speaker, and author for Growing Leaders. I recently read a commentary from a parent in the Chicago Tribune that was equally troubling and hilarious. This dad detailed the strange habits of his “Fortnite-obsessed” kids: waking up early to play the game, using strange words like “epic” and “legendary,” and moving around the
Seven Emotions That Follow a Sense of Entitlement
Follow @TimElmore A few short years ago, corporate executives were asked what single word best describes the recent college graduates entering their workplace. The word they selected? Entitled. Interestingly, when recent graduates were asked to guess what descriptive word these executives had chosen that begins with the letter “e,” they guessed: exciting, enterprising, entrepreneurial and energetic. None of them guessed how
7 Goals That High Schools Should Embrace
As I research for my new book, I come across some amazing stuff. Just a couple of weeks ago, I discovered some “gold” on an educational website. It was a document, created in 1918, called: “The Cardinal Principles of Secondary Education.” Almost a century ago, high schools were a new idea. Some had started, but there were no guiding principles for
The Real Purpose of Social Media
One of the biggest disconnects I see between adults and adolescents today is social media.
12 Must Read Leadership Books for Young Adults
As I travel and speak to college students, I’m often asked what are the best books for a young leader to read. Years ago, I created a list of “Must Reads” for established leaders, but below, I list what I consider great reads for emerging leaders—teens and twenty-somethings who aspire to leadership. Hope it’s helpful. 1. Leadership and Self-Deception, by the
How to Combat an Entitlement Mentality
In February 2019, a 27-year-old posted a viral video on YouTube. Wearing a fake beard and sunglasses, Raphael Samuel announced he was suing his parents because he was conceived without his consent. This was not a joke. Raphael grew up in India and felt he was entitled to payments for life, since he didn’t ask for all the hassles life offers
Four Signs of the Times from the College Entrance Scandal
Something almost unbelievable just happened between parents and colleges in the U.S. It may be a sign of the times. Fifty people either bribed or bought their child’s admission into a prestigious university—simply because they could. All of them are affluent, and some of them are famous. Below is a summary of what happened. “The Hollywood actresses Felicity Huffman and Lori Loughlin
Three Parental Acts That Hinder Students From Becoming Leaders
I just finished meeting with a group of university students. My goal was to ask them how they had adapted to college life. I chose this group of students because every one of them served in leadership roles during high school. I wondered if they’d continued in college. The overwhelming message I received from them is they didn’t feel they
Four Dangerous Parenting Styles Today
Just walk into any pre-school center and you’ll see that parents continue to evolve, even today in 2019. The variety of today’s parents is enormous. One teacher told me moms or dads will remain at the school until after the official start time, to make sure their child is safe and happy. Another administrator told me that parents are now
What Parents Should Say as Their Kids Perform
In my work at Growing Leaders, we enjoy the privilege of serving numerous NCAA and professional sports teams each year. After meeting with hundreds of coaches and athletes, I noticed an issue kept surfacing in our conversations. Both the student-athlete and the coach were trying to solve the same problem. What was that problem? The parents of the student-athletes.
The Greatest Leadership Movies
We love leadership movies. So recently we started a fun new tradition at our Growing Leaders office. Once a month we end the workday early and move into our creative space at our office, we pull some snacks out and watch one of these great leadership movies together.
Our team brainstormed some of the best leadership movies over the last few decades and we are going through this list once a month. We may not get through all of them but it provided us a great chance to see leadership failures and successes and discuss it afterward.
Seven Steps to Empower Your Students
When I learned to teach students, it was a different world. Forty years ago, I was much younger and my methods were more about one-way communication. It was all about lecture, drill, memorization and test. Today, students come from a different culture, but teachers are often still about “classroom management.” Students check out mentally; fall asleep and get distracted. And
Why Helicopter Parents Produce Boomerang Kids
I spent the last few days studying thirty years of student trends and patterns. While both K-12 and Higher Education have gone through transitions—the greatest shift in three decades of childhood is the parents. Parents are doing their job differently than they did forty years ago. We’ve all heard the term, “Helicopter Parent.” It’s a title we’ve affectionately bestowed upon moms and
From Controlling to Connecting with Students
I am writing all week on student empowerment. How do we fully engage students in a classroom, an athletic field, a work team or at home? I believe we must first realize this is a process of four steps. Progress evolves one step at a time with our young. Four Levels of Participation with Students 1. Attendance Some administrators talk about BOBs
What We Must Do to Empower Students
More and more teachers today make a distinction between student engagement and student empowerment. It makes sense to me. Julie Diaz is the principal of Travis High School near Houston, Texas. She’s building young leaders within that student body—and discovered surprising things happen when educators do this. Two years ago, some of her students told her they felt their school building
The Truth About Ownership in Athletics Today
Most coaches I talk to today mourn the struggle they have with their young players taking “ownership” of the team. Why aren’t they more responsible? Why don’t they think for themselves? Why do they need me to confront poor behavior from teammates and not do it themselves? Where are all the leaders? My answer? We stole it from them. Youth culture today
Four Solutions to School Dropouts
For years, educators, parents, and bureaucrats have been talking about America’s high school dropout rate. So many teens simply decide to stop taking classes and do something they feel is more relevant to their lives. The classic stereotype of a troublemaker who is slow and hates school is too narrow a picture of what’s really happening. Most of these teens get
Three Facts You Need to Know to Connect with Generation Z
For more than 30 years now, I have been tracking generational trends and changes. At first I noticed how Generation X differed from the Baby Boomers during the 1980s. Then, I began noticing how Millennials were breaking with Gen Xers in 2000. Today—I’m watching how Generation Z (today's high school and college students) is separating themselves from Millennials. Generation Z--as with
Arrogance: What to do When Your Students Know Everything
I recently ran across three examples of adults who’ve encountered arrogance in their students. One high school teacher smiled when she told me the most popular statement her students say to her every week is: “I know.” One athletic coach told me when he gave instructions on how to do a drill at practice, one of his student athletes corrected him,
Five Changes I’d Make If I Could Parent Over Again
Follow @TimElmore This month was a big turning point for my wife and me: we officially became “empty nesters.” In contemplating this new stage in life, we began to reflect on the good (and sometimes not-so-good) experiences we had as parents, on the times in which our parenting skills were tested. What’s interesting is that throughout the years of working with adults,
Morality and Social Media: Have You Considered the Impact?
Consider this reality. What the computer was for the Millennial Generation, social media is for Generation Z. The youngest cohort being measured today are those growing up since the turn of the 21st century; many call them Generation Z, following Gen. Y. Some call them the “touch screen generation” because they don’t manipulate the screen with a keyboard as much